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A Procrastinating Feeling


Feelings are the most challenging battleground in life. It is a reciprocal sensation of wanting what is good for life, although it seems to be much easier to hide what's going on as we know the answer lies somewhere between emotion and complexity.

A few years ago, in 2017 when I was texting each other with a female friend, there was a melodramatic word that she typed to me. "I feel procrastinating and I don't find someone to tell it," she said. Somehow I suddenly replied asking what the ‘procrastinating’ word means? As it was a new word I ever heard. I really didn’t have any assumption about that. Whether is it something to eat like a lollipop, something to do or something to hear? “What does it mean?,” so I asked.

To put it simply as she explained, 'procrastination' word related to our thoughts and sense of emotions. It is likely similar to boredom, but not boredom that was understandably caused by, maybe we got tired of waiting, maybe we could no longer sustain the love we need in order to endure the unbalance of everyday attachment. Complicated to be illustrated, but let’s say it is such a delayed behavior: imaging that you are currently arranging a job list and then you postpone it not to take action, as a result, you are facing the deadline! Have you ever been? It is called procrastination attitudes.

Recently the condition happens to me and I never anticipate this demotivating period long time gone by since she told me about it. Consequently, I've no way to present the ingredient of motivational statements. I think this is an uneasy part of psychological instability. Like a painting of Banksy’s Girl with a balloon that wouldn't be as understanding as it seems. Here is a bizarre feeling I thought.

To tackle this situation, I have tried to look for some articles and find out some suggestions which I would like to put in this essay. The first one is written by Sam Kemmis claiming that perhaps the problem lies not with our willpower, but in our emotion. Kemmis' argument is in line with Tim Pychyl's work, who wrote a book of Solving The Procrastination Puzzle,  said: "Procrastinating is not a time-management problem, it's an emotional problem." Both Kemmis and Tim views underlined one clue, it is emotion. Moreover in another essay mostly identified procrastination as a challenging emotion.

Anyway in more detail, I read the most intriguing essay in Forbes Online describing this challenging emotion using Newton’s first law of motion states, where objects in motion tend to stay in motion (on the contrary objects at rest tend to stay at rest). When you want to stay in motion, he suggested, as soon as you get an idea (or task), handle it. Therefore as you look at an incoming idea you are in motion, not in procrastination instead. Simply but not easy.

For various reasons, I practiced the above method but it still didn't work. Ultimately I found a new R-U-L-E system as new tactics. The RULE alphabet is an abbreviation of Recognize, Understand, Label, and Express. Here is how you can do brick-by-brick: merely recognize what you feel, understand how to solve, label what kind of situation you are in, and express your feelings by singing. At least this system works for a while, as I was saying at the beginning, it seems to be much easier to hide what's going on rather than to write it as we know the answer lies somewhere between emotion and complexity. (*/trah)